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When I committed to healing myself of Major Depressive Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder so that I could be the mother that my toddler deserved, I had no idea how I would accomplish that goal.

I never tried medications to treat either mental illness, because I took a class on physiological psychology in college and came out of it convinced that psychiatric drugs were too new.  Allowing a psychiatrist to experiment with my brain chemistry seemed to me a bigger risk than living with the disorders.

I thought that if I could just live on my own, by my own rules, the symptoms would fade away.

I was wrong.

Ten years later I found myself a homeless single mother with a spirited toddler.  I knew I needed help, but I still didn't trust psychologists or psychiatric drugs.

I started reading the works of Louise Hay and Leonie Allen, and watching films like The Secret and What the Bleep Do We Know.  Concepts from all of those sources swirled with many more concepts from  my studies in biology, anthropology, and language and with my spiritual, intuitive, and metaphysical experiences.  Those concepts led me to my customized healing path, which I modified as I progressed.

One of the first changes that I made in my habits was to stop watching and reading the news, stop watching dramas on tv and in the movies, and avoid music and books that could trigger depressive or anxious episodes.  My goal was to change my beliefs about my own life and about the "real world."

I reached that goal.

Nearly two years later, I have conquered the Major Depressive Disorder that blighted the first thirty years of my life.  I still avoid watching and reading "news."  I find out about tragedies because I have a few facebook friends who post that stuff whom I love too much to hide from my newsfeed. :)

Sometimes a little voice in my head accuses me of being irresponsible by not keeping up with the "news."

I remind that little voice, that the "news" is not an accurate reflection of what is going on in this world.

Every moment of every day, many people are suffering horrors and tragedies that many other people could never imagine.

Every moment of every day, many people are experiencing miracles, blessings, and unconditional love that many other people could never imagine.

Keeping myself informed about things that upset me doesn't help anyone, least of all me.
The news I choose to share is always about positive changes and celebrations of the good things in life. That is the news I care about, and I want to hear more because that kind of news inspires me to make more positive changes.  I share it because I hope it helps others stay positive too.

I have a lot of friends who are journalists and activists, people who think it is their responsibility to wake the rest of the world up about the horrible crap that goes on both behind the scenes and in plain sight.

I would propose that more changes can be made by sharing positive stories than by sharing upsetting ones.

Say you want to remember those poor people who were murdered recently.  You can share one of many articles or images that inspires grief, horror, anger, fear, or cynicism.

Or.

You could share a story or image that encourages people to take care of each other.  You could donate to a cause, volunteer your time or other resources, or do any one thing, big or small, to make a positive change in this world, and by doing so, inspire other people to do the same.  <3
 


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Scumby
12/23/2012 7:42am

The uninsured cost of talkie therapy is 80-150 per hour, the uninsured cost of a psychiatrist visit is about the same, uninsured medication at least 20 per month, possibly much higher. At 2 to 4 talk therapy visits per month and about one psychiatrist visit per month that's 260 per month cheapest case (2 talkie & 1 psych plus meds most per month) and 770 per month most expensive case. It's a crock of shit considering long term outcomes aren't terribly great.

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Ashley Rae
12/27/2012 5:18am

((HUGS))

I think for some people, therapy and even drugs can greatly help them on their healing paths. It helps to have someone with perspective guiding you, and if your problem really stems from a hormone imbalance, then drugs would be necessary.

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12/23/2012 5:08pm

Thanks for this post, Ashley Rae. I've viewed the news with a sidelong glance ever since I read one of Andrew Weil's books and read about his "news fast." As you say, if there's a major tragedy in the world, I'll hear about it without having to subject myself to the sensationalist media, either through Facebook or friends and colleagues at work. It's easier to pick and choose, and we don't get so stressed. I think we'd all be happier if we were more careful about what we expose ourselves to.

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Ashley Rae
12/27/2012 5:24am

Thank you, Nancy! I'll have to check out Weil's book.

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12/27/2012 4:54am

What an utterly inspiring and empowering story, Ashley Rae! Thank you so much for sharing it <3

As for focusing on the positive, I only ever nodded along with every sentence I read. I, too, have activist friends, and while I love them for their passion and intention to do good, my own path is through looking at the love, the bright side, the inspiring amazing-ness that is life, and people.
As Hawaiian Huna puts it: "What you focus on, grows." I refuse to grow crap ;-)
Much love! xx

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Ashley Rae
12/27/2012 5:28am

Thank you, Sibylle! My thoughts, exactly! ((HUGS))

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12/29/2012 7:00am

I identify with this so much! The last few weeks have been so difficult for me news-wise. I wanted to retreat and wipe the news from my brain. It was hard NOT to let the bad stuff effect me.
Kudos for you for knowing your boundaries and finding happiness. You are an inspiration!

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12/29/2012 8:59am

Thank you Dominee! <3

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